The For Agreement
I know it was written a few years ago. And I still have to take into account some of the author`s misunderstandings about wisdom in „The Four Accords.“ Note that the beginning of the book on domestication and dreams is an important preface to understanding the power of new chords. Thank you, Allan, for sharing your wisdom. I am honoured that someone of your stature would take the time to read my contribution and clarify the importance of the agreements. If we have made relationship agreements (regardless of the relationship) that the sharing for information purposes is done in the name of intimacy and not a complaint or an invitation to fix something to protect me from the emotional reactions I create myself. IMPRESSIVE. It`s a vulnerable intimacy and it can go anywhere (no ties to the outcome). Where it goes towards more truth, especially when the person who hears this sharing can go into YOUR emotional body and find out what is happening in reaction to the sharing and then share HIS emotional truth at this moment. By making a pact with these four key agreements, an individual can dramatically influence the amount of happiness they feel in their life, regardless of external circumstances.  In the first part of this 2-part video, we learn more about the „domestication“ of man and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As little children, it is our true nature to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; We are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we should be, and because it`s not normal for us to be what we are, we start pretending to be what we aren`t.
When we are teenagers, we have learned to judge ourselves, to punish ourselves and to reward ourselves according to agreements we have never chosen. The four agreements help us break self-limiting agreements and replace them with agreements that bring us freedom, happiness and love. I also found it strange to judge a book about the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and about the elderly who are the ancestors of the book author. For this reason, I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator explained why he thinks the four agreements encourage people to behave ruthlessly and selfishly, I might have had an answer. . . .